12/31/10

Peeking Back into the Dating World

Well, hello there! Long time no see. Yes, I know, it is all my fault but a girl’s gotta take a break once in awhile, as I’m sure you, my hopefully still adoring fans, understand.

In my last post I promised that my life was going to be boring and you all wouldn’t be missing much. Boy, was I wrong.

In the past month or so I’ve traveled all around the Western USA, gone on multiple dates, gotten food poisoning twice and even started dating someone regularly. The first three may come as no surprise but the last one shocks even me.

But here I am getting...

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12/08/10

Sojourn

For years, I’ve wanted to take on the National Novel Writing Month (NaNoWriMo) challenge but the idea of writing a 50,000 word novel in the month of November—an always hectic month for me—sounded overwhelming.

But this year, the idea of taking a month off of everything else and just engulfing myself in a story sounds amazing.

So, my devoted, adoring, loving fans, I’m had to abandon you for a month.

To be honest, you didn't miss much. As you’ve read, I’m taking a break from my usually hyper-sexed routine for some much needed me time, which means there won’t be much to report on anyways.

I’ve grown a bit...

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10/27/10

I May as Well Enjoy Myself

Just because I’m hanging out on the couch for a bit, doesn’t mean I can’t have fun while I’m here. Between Babeland and Good Vibrations, I have a three-drawer nightstand full of entertainment that doesn’t even require me leaving the house, just maybe occasionally switching from the couch to the bed.

It’s probably not surprising that I’m a big advocate for masturbation. You can’t expect someone else to please you if you don’t know how to do it yourself. Yet, many of my close friends, especially the coupled...

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10/12/10

Still on the Couch

It's hard to tell what disturbs me more, the fact that my once sexually reserved ex-girlfriend is having more sex than I am or the fact that this newly gained information bothers me so much.

In the logical part of my head, I know that sex isn't a competition or a numbers game–and even if it was, I would win–yet I can't help but be jealous that The Wind is intimately connecting with multiple people at once while I’ve only had one failed attempt at intimacy in over a year.
My reaction to this news has me wondering if my practice of keeping most people I hook-up with at arms length is no longer as beneficial as it was when the policy was first implemented in sixth grade.

Back then, I kissed my best friend and lost him and multiple other friendships in...

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10/08/10

Lost That Lovin’ Feelin’

How I went from passing out due to sexual exhaustion in Vegas to crying myself to sleep in Chicago, I don’t know—but there I was, alone on Roxie’s couch, bawling into a pillow.

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09/30/10

Over-Committed

Between traveling, moving to Portland, Ore. starting my new internship and school, I’ve been too busy to even think about sex.

It’s so bad Curve personals offered me a discount to renew the membership I didn’t know expired and I wouldn’t be surprised if Craig himself emailed to ask why I haven’t posted on his list lately.

I blame fatigue and my habit of over-committing myself professionally but I’d be remiss if I didn’t also give some credit to my affair with Roxie. It’s been so easy to fall into a comfortable rhythm of texts, IMs and calls with her that I’ve forgotten she lives miles away.

But miles away she does live and I have needs of the physical variety that require more than our occasional...

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09/07/10

Viva Las Vegas, Part II

Waking up to Roxie’s gentle touch, it became even more apparent how much I was becoming that lesbian with her. I’m not hitching up the UHaul or anything but we’re definitely falling into some lesbian stereotypes.

Last night it was sex in the shower with a mixed CD playing and this morning it’s kisses, cuddles and laughing. Most of the women I have sex with quickly fade into friends but Roxie was slowly fading into an affair.

After reluctantly leaving our extravagant hotel room—complete with its private entrance, dedicated...

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08/26/10

Viva Las Vegas

The problem with screwing someone you really like is you actually miss them when they’re gone.

Since sleeping with Roxie in June, I haven’t been able to get her out of my mind. Sure, I’ve slept with other people and thoroughly enjoyed their company but Roxie is who my thoughts return to these days when I’m cuddled up alone in bed late at night.

Apparently her thoughts return to me as well because about three weeks ago I got an early morning email titled “Crazy Thought” which simply asked, “What are you doing August 7-8?”

Our flights to Las Vegas were booked by noon.

Less than two weeks later, I stood in our luxurious Tower Suite in Encore Hotel, pressed against the glass, enjoying the breathtaking view of the...

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08/17/10

Marriage Matters

As a kid, I saw marriage as something my fellow small town residents did when they had no other option for their future or were knocked up.

The queerer I got, the less I found myself wanting to marry. Marriage seemed like something for other people, something I wasn’t even allowed to do.

One of the reasons I went to law school was to understand what all the fuss was about gay marriage. I wanted to know if it was just a campaign for assimilation or if it really was the turning point in equality.

So, this summer, I took an internship  with a major LGBT rights organization in San Francisco to find out just that.

What I learned is that marriage equality actually, truly and sincerely does matter.

I am currently in a promiscuous commitment-phobic...

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08/12/10

I Like Your Style

Inspired by a cute French Bistro in the Hayes Valley district of San Francisco, I put an ad on Craigslist to see if anyone felt like going on a date with me. A few people responded, but all of them trailed off as email responses from Craigslist tend to do.

For good measure, at the same time I posted an ad looking for just plain sex. This ad got many more responses, including a unsightly photo of some guy’s penis that promised to cure me of my homosexual sin.

Luckily, along with the penis shot, I also got pictures of a tall blonde femme accompanied by a friendly yet blunt email explaining that she went to school in a small conservative town in Scotland and it had been awhile since she had sex. She wasn’t looking for anything serious, just some sexual tension...

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08/04/10

Back to the Dungeon

The only thing that marks the Citadel from the buildings around it is a small paper sign on the blacked-out glass door. Well, that and the people dressed in head to toe leather smoking outside.

It didn’t take much for Peek A. Booty to convince me to go back to the dungeon. I’d been fantasizing about floggers and orgies since I left it last weekend and was eager to see what kind of trouble I could get in tonight.

Walking inside, I handed my membership card and ID to the corset clad guard sitting on a stool in front of the black velvet entrance curtain. The guard wished me a pleasant adventure, pulled aside the curtain and let me...

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07/27/10

Curve Pride

To be honest, Pride parties aren’t usually my thing.

I’m out and proud and about as gay as they get all year long, so it’s hard to justify spending twice as much to see the same people dance to the same music in the same bar I go to every week.

I support the symbolism of the event and definitely appreciate the political presence Pride affords our community, but in all the years I lived in San Francisco, there wasn’t a party that moved me enough to deal with the crowds.

This year, however, Curve magazine changed all of that.

Teaming up with Movement Productions, Curve hosted the Eden parties, a serious of...

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07/19/10

Welcoming Party, Part ll