Queerie Bradshaw

03/15/11

Peeking Back into the Dating World, Part II

Around mid-November, I started chatting online with this Southerner that pulled me in with the idea of whiskey and country karaoke. We made a date to meet for drinks on my birthday, which was also my last day of interning and I planned on staying up all night celebrating the two momentous occasions.

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12/31/10

Peeking Back into the Dating World

Well, hello there! Long time no see. Yes, I know, it is all my fault but a girl’s gotta take a break once in awhile, as I’m sure you, my hopefully still adoring fans, understand.In my last post I promised that my life was going to be boring and you all wouldn’t be missing much. Boy, was I wrong.In the past month or so I’ve traveled all around the Western USA, gone on multiple dates, gotten food poisoning twice and even started dating someone regularly. The first three may come as no surprise but the last one shocks even me.But here I am getting ahead of myself. Let’s go back to the beginning.Last we chatted (OK, I wrote, you read, but I like to think we can have a dialogue, if only in the comments section), I was still laying on my couch, depressed over my...

Posted at 05:06 PM | Permalink | Comments: 4

12/08/10

Sojourn

For years, I’ve wanted to take on the National Novel Writing Month (NaNoWriMo) challenge but the idea of writing a 50,000 word novel in the month of November—an always hectic month for me—sounded overwhelming.But this year, the idea of taking a month off of everything else and just engulfing myself in a story sounds amazing.So, my devoted, adoring, loving fans, I’m had to abandon you for a month.To be honest, you didn't miss much. As you’ve read, I’m taking a break from my usually hyper-sexed routine for some much needed me time, which means there won’t be much to report on anyways.I’ve grown a bit and it’s time for my dating life to do the same. I’m not quite sure what that’s going to look like but I know one night...

Posted at 04:49 PM | Permalink | Comments: 0

10/27/10

I May as Well Enjoy Myself

Just because I’m hanging out on the couch for a bit, doesn’t mean I can’t have fun while I’m here. Between Babeland and Good Vibrations, I have a three-drawer nightstand full of entertainment that doesn’t even require me leaving the house, just maybe occasionally switching from the couch to the bed.It’s probably not surprising that I’m a big advocate for masturbation. You can’t expect someone else to please you if you don’t know how to do it yourself. Yet, many of my close friends, especially the coupled ones, hardly ever masturbate.Besides the obvious shame and guilt that touching oneself conjures in our Puritanical society, there’s a lot of misconception around the effects of masturbation, even in liberal minded circles.For...

Posted at 08:58 PM | Permalink | Comments: 1

10/12/10

Still on the Couch

It's hard to tell what disturbs me more, the fact that my once sexually reserved ex-girlfriend is having more sex than I am or the fact that this newly gained information bothers me so much.In the logical part of my head, I know that sex isn't a competition or a numbers game–and even if it was, I would win–yet I can't help but be jealous that The Wind is intimately connecting with multiple people at once while I’ve only had one failed attempt at intimacy in over a year.My reaction to this news has me wondering if my practice of keeping most people I hook-up with at arms length is no longer as beneficial as it was when the policy was first implemented in sixth grade.Back then, I kissed my best friend and lost him and multiple other friendships in the aftermath. To this...

Posted at 01:40 PM | Permalink | Comments: 0

10/08/10

Lost That Lovin’ Feelin’

How I went from passing out due to sexual exhaustion in Vegas to crying myself to sleep in Chicago, I don’t know—but there I was, alone on Roxie’s couch, bawling into a pillow.

Posted at 07:11 PM | Permalink | Comments: 2

09/30/10

Over-Committed

Between traveling, moving to Portland, Ore. starting my new internship and school, I’ve been too busy to even think about sex. It’s so bad Curve personals offered me a discount to renew the membership I didn’t know expired and I wouldn’t be surprised if Craig himself emailed to ask why I haven’t posted on his list lately. I blame fatigue and my habit of over-committing myself professionally but I’d be remiss if I didn’t also give some credit to my affair with Roxie. It’s been so easy to fall into a comfortable rhythm of texts, IMs and calls with her that I’ve forgotten she lives miles away. But miles away she does live and I have needs of the physical variety that require more than our occasional vacation trysts give me. Which is...

Posted at 01:34 PM | Permalink | Comments: 2

09/07/10

Viva Las Vegas, Part II

Waking up to Roxie’s gentle touch, it became even more apparent how much I was becoming that lesbian with her. I’m not hitching up the UHaul or anything but we’re definitely falling into some lesbian stereotypes.Last night it was sex in the shower with a mixed CD playing and this morning it’s kisses, cuddles and laughing. Most of the women I have sex with quickly fade into friends but Roxie was slowly fading into an affair.After reluctantly leaving our extravagant hotel room—complete with its private entrance, dedicated Pride concierge and adorable gay bellhop that catered to our every need—we roamed around the Encore and Wynn hotels, stopping occasionally to play the Wizard of Oz penny slots I love so much.If Wynn is the sophisticated older sister,...

Posted at 11:35 AM | Permalink | Comments: 0

08/26/10

Viva Las Vegas

The problem with screwing someone you really like is you actually miss them when they’re gone.Since sleeping with Roxie in June, I haven’t been able to get her out of my mind. Sure, I’ve slept with other people and thoroughly enjoyed their company but Roxie is who my thoughts return to these days when I’m cuddled up alone in bed late at night.Apparently her thoughts return to me as well because about three weeks ago I got an early morning email titled “Crazy Thought” which simply asked, “What are you doing August 7-8?”Our flights to Las Vegas were booked by noon.Less than two weeks later, I stood in our luxurious Tower Suite in Encore Hotel, pressed against the glass, enjoying the breathtaking view of the Strip, Roxie’s hands on my...

Posted at 11:29 AM | Permalink | Comments: 0

08/17/10

Marriage Matters

As a kid, I saw marriage as something my fellow small town residents did when they had no other option for their future or were knocked up.The queerer I got, the less I found myself wanting to marry. Marriage seemed like something for other people, something I wasn’t even allowed to do.One of the reasons I went to law school was to understand what all the fuss was about gay marriage. I wanted to know if it was just a campaign for assimilation or if it really was the turning point in equality.So, this summer, I took an internship with a major LGBT rights organization in San Francisco to find out just that.What I learned is that marriage equality actually, truly and sincerely does matter.I am currently in a promiscuous commitment-phobic phase of my life, but it wasn’t...

Posted at 05:26 PM | Permalink | Comments: 3

	03/15/11 Peeking Back into the Dating World, Part II Around mid-November, I started chatting online with this Southerner that pulled me in with the idea of whiskey and country karaoke. We made a date to meet for drinks on my birthday, which was also my last day of interning and I planned on staying up all night celebrating the two momentous occasions. Posted at 01:33 PM \| Permalink \| Comments: 0
	12/31/10 Peeking Back into the Dating World Well, hello there! Long time no see. Yes, I know, it is all my fault but a girl’s gotta take a break once in awhile, as I’m sure you, my hopefully still adoring fans, understand.In my last post I promised that my life was going to be boring and you all wouldn’t be missing much. Boy, was I wrong.In the past month or so I’ve traveled all around the Western USA, gone on multiple dates, gotten food poisoning twice and even started dating someone regularly. The first three may come as no surprise but the last one shocks even me.But here I am getting ahead of myself. Let’s go back to the beginning.Last we chatted (OK, I wrote, you read, but I like to think we can have a dialogue, if only in the comments section), I was still laying on my couch, depressed over my... Posted at 05:06 PM \| Permalink \| Comments: 4
	12/08/10 Sojourn For years, I’ve wanted to take on the National Novel Writing Month (NaNoWriMo) challenge but the idea of writing a 50,000 word novel in the month of November—an always hectic month for me—sounded overwhelming.But this year, the idea of taking a month off of everything else and just engulfing myself in a story sounds amazing.So, my devoted, adoring, loving fans, I’m had to abandon you for a month.To be honest, you didn't miss much. As you’ve read, I’m taking a break from my usually hyper-sexed routine for some much needed me time, which means there won’t be much to report on anyways.I’ve grown a bit and it’s time for my dating life to do the same. I’m not quite sure what that’s going to look like but I know one night... Posted at 04:49 PM \| Permalink \| Comments: 0
	10/27/10 I May as Well Enjoy Myself Just because I’m hanging out on the couch for a bit, doesn’t mean I can’t have fun while I’m here. Between Babeland and Good Vibrations, I have a three-drawer nightstand full of entertainment that doesn’t even require me leaving the house, just maybe occasionally switching from the couch to the bed.It’s probably not surprising that I’m a big advocate for masturbation. You can’t expect someone else to please you if you don’t know how to do it yourself. Yet, many of my close friends, especially the coupled ones, hardly ever masturbate.Besides the obvious shame and guilt that touching oneself conjures in our Puritanical society, there’s a lot of misconception around the effects of masturbation, even in liberal minded circles.For... Posted at 08:58 PM \| Permalink \| Comments: 1
	10/12/10 Still on the Couch It's hard to tell what disturbs me more, the fact that my once sexually reserved ex-girlfriend is having more sex than I am or the fact that this newly gained information bothers me so much.In the logical part of my head, I know that sex isn't a competition or a numbers game–and even if it was, I would win–yet I can't help but be jealous that The Wind is intimately connecting with multiple people at once while I’ve only had one failed attempt at intimacy in over a year.My reaction to this news has me wondering if my practice of keeping most people I hook-up with at arms length is no longer as beneficial as it was when the policy was first implemented in sixth grade.Back then, I kissed my best friend and lost him and multiple other friendships in the aftermath. To this... Posted at 01:40 PM \| Permalink \| Comments: 0
	10/08/10 Lost That Lovin’ Feelin’ How I went from passing out due to sexual exhaustion in Vegas to crying myself to sleep in Chicago, I don’t know—but there I was, alone on Roxie’s couch, bawling into a pillow. Posted at 07:11 PM \| Permalink \| Comments: 2
	09/30/10 Over-Committed Between traveling, moving to Portland, Ore. starting my new internship and school, I’ve been too busy to even think about sex. It’s so bad Curve personals offered me a discount to renew the membership I didn’t know expired and I wouldn’t be surprised if Craig himself emailed to ask why I haven’t posted on his list lately. I blame fatigue and my habit of over-committing myself professionally but I’d be remiss if I didn’t also give some credit to my affair with Roxie. It’s been so easy to fall into a comfortable rhythm of texts, IMs and calls with her that I’ve forgotten she lives miles away. But miles away she does live and I have needs of the physical variety that require more than our occasional vacation trysts give me. Which is... Posted at 01:34 PM \| Permalink \| Comments: 2
	09/07/10 Viva Las Vegas, Part II Waking up to Roxie’s gentle touch, it became even more apparent how much I was becoming that lesbian with her. I’m not hitching up the UHaul or anything but we’re definitely falling into some lesbian stereotypes.Last night it was sex in the shower with a mixed CD playing and this morning it’s kisses, cuddles and laughing. Most of the women I have sex with quickly fade into friends but Roxie was slowly fading into an affair.After reluctantly leaving our extravagant hotel room—complete with its private entrance, dedicated Pride concierge and adorable gay bellhop that catered to our every need—we roamed around the Encore and Wynn hotels, stopping occasionally to play the Wizard of Oz penny slots I love so much.If Wynn is the sophisticated older sister,... Posted at 11:35 AM \| Permalink \| Comments: 0
	08/26/10 Viva Las Vegas The problem with screwing someone you really like is you actually miss them when they’re gone.Since sleeping with Roxie in June, I haven’t been able to get her out of my mind. Sure, I’ve slept with other people and thoroughly enjoyed their company but Roxie is who my thoughts return to these days when I’m cuddled up alone in bed late at night.Apparently her thoughts return to me as well because about three weeks ago I got an early morning email titled “Crazy Thought” which simply asked, “What are you doing August 7-8?”Our flights to Las Vegas were booked by noon.Less than two weeks later, I stood in our luxurious Tower Suite in Encore Hotel, pressed against the glass, enjoying the breathtaking view of the Strip, Roxie’s hands on my... Posted at 11:29 AM \| Permalink \| Comments: 0
	08/17/10 Marriage Matters As a kid, I saw marriage as something my fellow small town residents did when they had no other option for their future or were knocked up.The queerer I got, the less I found myself wanting to marry. Marriage seemed like something for other people, something I wasn’t even allowed to do.One of the reasons I went to law school was to understand what all the fuss was about gay marriage. I wanted to know if it was just a campaign for assimilation or if it really was the turning point in equality.So, this summer, I took an internship with a major LGBT rights organization in San Francisco to find out just that.What I learned is that marriage equality actually, truly and sincerely does matter.I am currently in a promiscuous commitment-phobic phase of my life, but it wasn’t... Posted at 05:26 PM \| Permalink \| Comments: 3

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