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03/11/10

Getting Around

My gal and I were at a reading at bluestockings bookstore on the Lower East Side the other evening. The Reader that night is a friend and colleague, lost and found. Her new-ish girlfriend is another mutual friend, not real familiar, but we all know each other from “around.” Around meaning the Brooklyn lesbian community and the New York City literary and arts scene.

The event was a big deal: our friend the Reader is a pretty (in)famous writer, poet and spoken word artist. Her girlfriend was beaming proudly and snapping photos relentlessly—of the crowd, her girlfriend reading, of the store, of anything and everything to commemorate this momentous undertaking.

Our friend the Reader’s girlfriend chatted with us, addressing us thus: “Hello you two...

Posted at 01:53 PM | Permalink | Comments: 0

03/03/10

Welcome Home

My gal came back from the Western U.S. to one very eager Hooked-Up blogger! I was waiting for her at her apartment in Bushwick. When she came through the door at about 8:30 a.m., she was exhausted, not just form an overnight flight, but also from dealing with her family.

I huddled her into bed for a much-needed nap. When she awoke, our mutual pent up desire led us into hot, steamy raucous sex. We were fucking for hours and there was even a little canoodling and cooing that we were glad to see and hold each other again.

Now neither of us is big on canoodling or cooing, but two weeks is a bit of time. In the time she had been gone I had had a few new articles published in various publications, received some new and interesting writing gigs and had several run-in...

Posted at 04:01 PM | Permalink | Comments: 2

02/19/10

V-Day 2010

“Happy FUCK Valentine's Day my love!” This message came to me Sunday morning via email from my girlfriend, who is visiting her family of origin in the Western U.S. And I completely agree with its sentiments.

Last year on Valentine’s Day my girlfriend and I had known each other less than two months and, as we found out, we both despise Valentine’s Day: the crass commercialization of it, yes, but also the faux romance of the once-a-year “holiday.” So, we had our own little anti-Valentine’s Day dinner with a few friends.

Since my gal is away and I am here in Brooklyn, I don’t have any plans for V-Day, and don’t really care to make any. I have too much to do—real quality stuff in my life and I don’t have room...

Posted at 03:21 PM | Permalink | Comments: 1

02/10/10

Sock Sex

People often think having sex wearing socks is not sexy. And it’s kinda not, but it is really funny and what’s more fun than having sex and laughing at the same time?

And, if you’re prone to fetishes, you can even have a stock of socks to match your sex toys.

In any case, my girlfriend and I often catch ourselves in a sexual scenario where we are totally naked except for our socks. And it makes us laugh and also question whether we need to take them off or not.

But, we live on the East Coast after all and winters here are pretty chilly. And Brooklyn apartments, which we both have, are notoriously unreliable in terms of heat during the cold weather. However, if we’re already in the middle of sex, what’s the point of taking them...

Posted at 02:34 PM | Permalink | Comments: 5

02/03/10

Nothing Less Than Wonderful

My girlfriend and I have decided—or perhaps we decided somewhat by default quite a while ago, which is why we are still together—we don't need a relationship that is less than wonderful.

I’ve come to find that I really like spending a lot of time with my girlfriend. It may sound funny since we have been in a monogamous relationship for over a year at this point, but I never saw myself wanting to spend more time with one other person than spending time alone ever again. I mean c’mon, I’m 46 years old and “set in my ways” some of which are pretty quirky. But, this realization also does not mean isolating ourselves from the world, hibernating together or being a reclusive, nesting lesbian couple who never goes out without other...

Posted at 03:30 PM | Permalink | Comments: 2

01/27/10

More Buts

…Continued

“I wonder who else is going to be at K and C’s dinner party next weekend. I hope no one we don’t want to see,” I said somewhat rhetorically to my girlfriend Saturday morning. We had begun our new routine of spending an hour on weekend mornings walking together through Prospect Park. When she stays over at my place, that is. If we’re at her place on a weekend morning, I’m not sure if we’re gonna walk anywhere. But if we do it will be in Maria Hernandez Park.

So, this pricked up my girlfriend’s ears and she replied, “Well, I hope it’s not anyone you’ve had sex with.” She said it in jest, but there was a somewhat serious edge to her statement.

I know she is not an overly jealous...

Posted at 12:15 PM | Permalink | Comments: 0

01/20/10

The Buts

My girlfriend and I are finally off probation.

By “probation” we meant—half joking and half serious—if we could hold it together for a year, we’d probably be good to go with nothing left to hide. My girlfriend recently told me she has no “buts” about me and I told her I had found no “bad brew” between us—no trigger points or personality clash that would make it impossible for us to be together.

But, we know so many lesbians who have difficult relationships with their girlfriends, significant others, spouses, life-partners, etc. because of what we call the “buts”. There are big buts and small buts, however, all the “buts” have the same impact.

The “buts” go something like...

Posted at 02:31 PM | Permalink | Comments: 1

01/06/10

Solitude and Strength

My girlfriend is currently starring in a film here in New York City. It’s all very top secret and I’m very excited for her and the opportunity it represents for her artistic career. But, it also means she’s not been around much these past weeks and won’t be for a few more. I miss her, a lot, and that got me thinking about whether mine is simply a healthy feeling of her absence or some kind of co-dependent angst or existential loneliness.

So, I’ve interrogated my feelings these past few days and come to the conclusion that what I’ve got is a healthy dose of plain ol’ missing my gal: the thrill of her flirty, filthy or informational emails, texts and phone calls; the feeling of her warm, sexy body against mine; having regular sex; playing...

Posted at 10:50 AM | Permalink | Comments: 0

12/29/09

Keeping it Freaky

I just received the print version of the 20th Anniversary January/February issue of Curve in the mail. My mother received it a week ago (she must live next door to the printing plant). She likes to read my articles and know what’s going on in my world. She reported last week that the new issue is “very lesbian” and I knew what she meant. So I’m posting in the spirit of Sex 101 and Curve’s winter guide to better orgasms.

I’m multiorgasmic and a squirter, for lack of a better term. I hate “female ejaculation,” it sounds so clinical or like a fatal disease. Being multiorgasmic is great news for me, of course, but also for my girlfriend, who likes to boink me for hours. We took x-mas day off to be with each other and...

Posted at 09:55 AM | Permalink | Comments: 0

12/23/09

When the Past Crosses Paths with the Present

My girlfriend and I were at a reading the other night—a friend was reading her piece from Best Lesbian Erotica 2010 at KGB Bar in Manhattan. We arrived early, well actually right on time, but early for the New York lesbo crowd. We, me, my girlfriend and our mutual friend, were getting comfortable in our seats when I woman I barely recognized came over and gave me a kiss and a very familiarly caressed my face. She disappeared to another part of the bar just as quickly as she appeared.

Now, my girlfriend is the jealous type. She’s not a maniac about it—but jealous all the same. And she knows I have “a past.” In any case when I told her that the woman who just kissed me was someone who had been a fuck buddy many, many years ago (so long ago that I met...

Posted at 10:38 AM | Permalink | Comments: 0

	03/11/10 Getting Around My gal and I were at a reading at bluestockings bookstore on the Lower East Side the other evening. The Reader that night is a friend and colleague, lost and found. Her new-ish girlfriend is another mutual friend, not real familiar, but we all know each other from “around.” Around meaning the Brooklyn lesbian community and the New York City literary and arts scene. The event was a big deal: our friend the Reader is a pretty (in)famous writer, poet and spoken word artist. Her girlfriend was beaming proudly and snapping photos relentlessly—of the crowd, her girlfriend reading, of the store, of anything and everything to commemorate this momentous undertaking. Our friend the Reader’s girlfriend chatted with us, addressing us thus: “Hello you two... Posted at 01:53 PM \| Permalink \| Comments: 0
	03/03/10 Welcome Home My gal came back from the Western U.S. to one very eager Hooked-Up blogger! I was waiting for her at her apartment in Bushwick. When she came through the door at about 8:30 a.m., she was exhausted, not just form an overnight flight, but also from dealing with her family. I huddled her into bed for a much-needed nap. When she awoke, our mutual pent up desire led us into hot, steamy raucous sex. We were fucking for hours and there was even a little canoodling and cooing that we were glad to see and hold each other again. Now neither of us is big on canoodling or cooing, but two weeks is a bit of time. In the time she had been gone I had had a few new articles published in various publications, received some new and interesting writing gigs and had several run-in... Posted at 04:01 PM \| Permalink \| Comments: 2
	02/19/10 V-Day 2010 “Happy FUCK Valentine's Day my love!” This message came to me Sunday morning via email from my girlfriend, who is visiting her family of origin in the Western U.S. And I completely agree with its sentiments. Last year on Valentine’s Day my girlfriend and I had known each other less than two months and, as we found out, we both despise Valentine’s Day: the crass commercialization of it, yes, but also the faux romance of the once-a-year “holiday.” So, we had our own little anti-Valentine’s Day dinner with a few friends. Since my gal is away and I am here in Brooklyn, I don’t have any plans for V-Day, and don’t really care to make any. I have too much to do—real quality stuff in my life and I don’t have room... Posted at 03:21 PM \| Permalink \| Comments: 1
	02/10/10 Sock Sex People often think having sex wearing socks is not sexy. And it’s kinda not, but it is really funny and what’s more fun than having sex and laughing at the same time? And, if you’re prone to fetishes, you can even have a stock of socks to match your sex toys. In any case, my girlfriend and I often catch ourselves in a sexual scenario where we are totally naked except for our socks. And it makes us laugh and also question whether we need to take them off or not. But, we live on the East Coast after all and winters here are pretty chilly. And Brooklyn apartments, which we both have, are notoriously unreliable in terms of heat during the cold weather. However, if we’re already in the middle of sex, what’s the point of taking them... Posted at 02:34 PM \| Permalink \| Comments: 5
	02/03/10 Nothing Less Than Wonderful My girlfriend and I have decided—or perhaps we decided somewhat by default quite a while ago, which is why we are still together—we don't need a relationship that is less than wonderful. I’ve come to find that I really like spending a lot of time with my girlfriend. It may sound funny since we have been in a monogamous relationship for over a year at this point, but I never saw myself wanting to spend more time with one other person than spending time alone ever again. I mean c’mon, I’m 46 years old and “set in my ways” some of which are pretty quirky. But, this realization also does not mean isolating ourselves from the world, hibernating together or being a reclusive, nesting lesbian couple who never goes out without other... Posted at 03:30 PM \| Permalink \| Comments: 2
	01/27/10 More Buts …Continued “I wonder who else is going to be at K and C’s dinner party next weekend. I hope no one we don’t want to see,” I said somewhat rhetorically to my girlfriend Saturday morning. We had begun our new routine of spending an hour on weekend mornings walking together through Prospect Park. When she stays over at my place, that is. If we’re at her place on a weekend morning, I’m not sure if we’re gonna walk anywhere. But if we do it will be in Maria Hernandez Park. So, this pricked up my girlfriend’s ears and she replied, “Well, I hope it’s not anyone you’ve had sex with.” She said it in jest, but there was a somewhat serious edge to her statement. I know she is not an overly jealous... Posted at 12:15 PM \| Permalink \| Comments: 0
	01/20/10 The Buts My girlfriend and I are finally off probation. By “probation” we meant—half joking and half serious—if we could hold it together for a year, we’d probably be good to go with nothing left to hide. My girlfriend recently told me she has no “buts” about me and I told her I had found no “bad brew” between us—no trigger points or personality clash that would make it impossible for us to be together. But, we know so many lesbians who have difficult relationships with their girlfriends, significant others, spouses, life-partners, etc. because of what we call the “buts”. There are big buts and small buts, however, all the “buts” have the same impact. The “buts” go something like... Posted at 02:31 PM \| Permalink \| Comments: 1
	01/06/10 Solitude and Strength My girlfriend is currently starring in a film here in New York City. It’s all very top secret and I’m very excited for her and the opportunity it represents for her artistic career. But, it also means she’s not been around much these past weeks and won’t be for a few more. I miss her, a lot, and that got me thinking about whether mine is simply a healthy feeling of her absence or some kind of co-dependent angst or existential loneliness. So, I’ve interrogated my feelings these past few days and come to the conclusion that what I’ve got is a healthy dose of plain ol’ missing my gal: the thrill of her flirty, filthy or informational emails, texts and phone calls; the feeling of her warm, sexy body against mine; having regular sex; playing... Posted at 10:50 AM \| Permalink \| Comments: 0
	12/29/09 Keeping it Freaky I just received the print version of the 20th Anniversary January/February issue of Curve in the mail. My mother received it a week ago (she must live next door to the printing plant). She likes to read my articles and know what’s going on in my world. She reported last week that the new issue is “very lesbian” and I knew what she meant. So I’m posting in the spirit of Sex 101 and Curve’s winter guide to better orgasms. I’m multiorgasmic and a squirter, for lack of a better term. I hate “female ejaculation,” it sounds so clinical or like a fatal disease. Being multiorgasmic is great news for me, of course, but also for my girlfriend, who likes to boink me for hours. We took x-mas day off to be with each other and... Posted at 09:55 AM \| Permalink \| Comments: 0
	12/23/09 When the Past Crosses Paths with the Present My girlfriend and I were at a reading the other night—a friend was reading her piece from Best Lesbian Erotica 2010 at KGB Bar in Manhattan. We arrived early, well actually right on time, but early for the New York lesbo crowd. We, me, my girlfriend and our mutual friend, were getting comfortable in our seats when I woman I barely recognized came over and gave me a kiss and a very familiarly caressed my face. She disappeared to another part of the bar just as quickly as she appeared. Now, my girlfriend is the jealous type. She’s not a maniac about it—but jealous all the same. And she knows I have “a past.” In any case when I told her that the woman who just kissed me was someone who had been a fuck buddy many, many years ago (so long ago that I met... Posted at 10:38 AM \| Permalink \| Comments: 0

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