11/18/09

Dodging the Urge to U-Haul

I’m broke, busted, have no dinero. My fulltime day job, turned part time job, just got cut. I’m thinking about alternatives, including getting into a roommate situation to lower my rent even though I’ve never had a roommate in my life. I’ve lived with girlfriends, but never had a roommate proper.

The other day my therapist asked if I were considering moving in with the Playwright to consolidate expenses. I said no. She asked me why not, I’m pretty sure she was playing devil’s advocate. I said neither of us has the intention of moving in together any time soon and it would be a recipe for disaster. We’re still getting to know each other—a financial crisis is no time to rent a U-Haul.

A friend said, “Yeah, but six months...

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11/11/09

Avoiding the Lesbian Trap

So it’s been going along swimmingly, this relationship thing. I’m really into it. And I want to say that while for several years I was not at all ready to start what could turn into a committed relationship, I feel I am in that place now. But, I also know it ain’t for everyone.

I’m all for casual sex, one night stands, poly and other open relationships, and anonymous encounters. Make no mistake; I’m no proselytizer about monogamy. I just know me. And, while I did “play the field” for a few years and was totally skeptical about whether I would ever be interested in or capable of committing to one woman after two decades of unsatisfying serial monogamy, it is indeed very satisfying knowing that there is one person out there in this big...

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11/04/09

London Calling?

I find that when I am in a good place mentally, having a good relationship, traveling for fun and business, successfully writing and publishing, etc., former friends and lovers come out of the woodwork they burrowed into when things were not so good and I really needed them. And, since all of my business is broadcast on Facebook and otherwise online, it’s easy enough to find out what I am doing and what my “status” is in just about every realm.

So when my relationship with the Playwright went public and it looked promising that it was a very good and healthy step in my life, the London Bird reared her head and my phone rang. Oh my, that trip to New York she couldn’t make last fall because she had rekindled her romance with an on-again-off-again lover,...

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