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Dr. Frankie, Is it OK to Take it Slow—In Bed?

06/13/11

Dr. Frankie, Is it OK to Take it Slow—In Bed?

Dear Dr. Frankie, I think I've met a chick I really dig. We are still just flirting but I get a really good vibe from her. When I do ask her out I really want to impress her and hold her interest. Is waiting to have sex a good tactic for keeping her interested? I don't want to come off as prude, but I want her to feel like we could have something special and that takes time to develop. In a dating pool where the decision to move in together is made on the second date, what is a tasteful and romantic way to maintain a slow pace and really develop an intense emotional connection before moving on to sex? Any advice you have is greatly appreciated!   Dear Patience, This is truly a wonderful question and something that not enough women ask themselves before...

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Dear Dr. Frankie, Am I too cynical of relationships?

05/24/11

Dear Dr. Frankie, Am I too cynical of relationships?

Dear Dr. Frankie, Am I too cynical of relationships? When I meet new people I sometimes find someone I am attracted to, but most just become friends. The charming ones become more inviting which is then followed by the "hit it of" stage. I'm not sure if I get scared or I'm just more interested in cultivating a large group of friends right now? The moment we get close to getting close—I start to put on my running shoes—and I gain a new friend. Maybe it's me—maybe it's them, but I think it's more me than them...What do you think is wrong with me—without knowing who or how I am? Dear Forrest, Honestly, without knowing more of your history it’s difficult for me to get into specifics. What I can say is that if you feel...

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Dr Frankie, I'm in Love with My Lesbian Friend

05/02/11

Dr Frankie, I'm in Love with My Lesbian Friend

Dear Dr. Frankie, I am married but have strong feelings for a close friend who is living openly as a lesbian.

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Dr. Frankie, I Have Feelings For Someone Else

04/05/11

Dr. Frankie, I Have Feelings For Someone Else

Dear Dr. Frankie, 
I've been what I thought was happily married to my partner for 9 years. Recently, I've realized that I'm having feelings for someone else. I'm feeling anxious and confused, but it's also exciting to be woken up and stimulated like this. I'm not sure what to do. Can you offer any advice? Stop, look and listen! It’s unfair to compare the energy and excitement you may feel from the attention of a new girl to the routine comfort of a nine year relationship. Even the best relationship can feel monotonous at times. If you think your feelings might be driven by something other than just complacency in your current relationship, ask yourself are you are being distracted by someone else because your relationship isn’t fulfilling?...

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Dr Frankie, How Do I Get Over Her?

03/15/11

Dr Frankie, How Do I Get Over Her?

Dear Dr. Frankie,
 
I am a 50-year-old lesbian whose been married to my wife for 6 years. We’ve known each other for 23 years and have been together for 12. My wife just left me for the 5th time. One of our issues is whether or not to have children. She left me last year but came back briefly after I agreed to have children. We went through three inseminations and they all failed. She said we could take a break then try again. Last month, I got home from church and she unloaded the fifth bomb on me. I am tired of her dragging my heart through the mud, throwing me away like a piece of trash, and changing the rules on me.

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