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05/24/11
Dear Dr. Frankie,Am I too cynical of relationships? When I meet new people I sometimes find someone I am attracted to, but most just become friends. The charming ones become more inviting which is then followed by the "hit it of" stage. I'm not sure if I get scared or I'm just more interested in cultivating a large group of friends right now? The moment we get close to getting close—I start to put on my running shoes—and I gain a new friend. Maybe it's me—maybe it's them, but I think it's more me than them...What do you think is wrong with me—without knowing who or how I am?Dear Forrest,Honestly, without knowing more of your history it’s difficult for me to get into specifics. What I can say is that if you feel it’s more you than then, then...
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05/02/11
Dear Dr. Frankie,
I am married but have strong feelings for a close friend who is living openly as a lesbian.
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04/05/11
Dear Dr. Frankie,
I've been what I thought was happily married to my partner for 9 years. Recently, I've realized that I'm having feelings for someone else. I'm feeling anxious and confused, but it's also exciting to be woken up and stimulated like this. I'm not sure what to do. Can you offer any advice?Stop, look and listen! It’s unfair to compare the energy and excitement you may feel from the attention of a new girl to the routine comfort of a nine year relationship. Even the best relationship can feel monotonous at times. If you think your feelings might be driven by something other than just complacency in your current relationship, ask yourself are you are being distracted by someone else because your relationship isn’t fulfilling? Before you do anything,...
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03/15/11
Dear Dr. Frankie,
I am a 50-year-old lesbian whose been married to my wife for 6 years. We’ve known each other for 23 years and have been together for 12. My wife just left me for the 5th time. One of our issues is whether or not to have children. She left me last year but came back briefly after I agreed to have children. We went through three inseminations and they all failed. She said we could take a break then try again. Last month, I got home from church and she unloaded the fifth bomb on me. I am tired of her dragging my heart through the mud, throwing me away like a piece of trash, and changing the rules on me.
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02/18/11
Dear Dr. Frankie, I like being single, with all its freedoms, but I hate being alone. And yet when I do get a girlfriend I feel tied down and I hate the routine. It feels cloying to me and then I push her away. It always comes apart within a year. My last girlfriend told me I am commitment-phobe. Am I? I’m about to turn 30 and I’m ready to settle down. I think. —Ms. MaybeDear Ms. Maybe,I don’t think “commitment-phobe” is necessarily the right label. It sounds like you need to know what qualities to look for in a potential girlfriend. Companionship is a basic human need and I believe it enriches our lives in almost every way. Since you really cherish your freedom and hate the monotony that relationships can sometimes bring, it’s...
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