Dr. Frankie Bashan

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Dear Dr. Frankie, I'm sick of hearing about exes!

04/18/13

Dear Dr. Frankie, I'm sick of hearing about exes!

Dear Dr. Frankie, Lesbians are known to be extremely relationship focused. I have yet to go on a first or second date with a woman where she does not mention her past relationships. It's a big generalization, but with heterosexual dating people don't talk about their exes for quite some time, and definitely not as extensively as lesbians do. At what point should you mention exes, and to what degree? —Annoyed   Dear Annoyed, I think people often find it tempting to discuss one’s relationship history because it’s something most people can relate to. Many of us have had our fair share of relationship follies, some more comical than others, and it can be a way to share similar experiences. My suggestion would be to hold off on trading...

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Dear Dr. Frankie, How do I move on from a first love?

02/22/13

Dear Dr. Frankie, How do I move on from a first love?

Dear Dr. Frankie I came out about a year ago - although I had realized for almost a year that I was at least bisexual. I've had two relationships with girls, the first was before I came out and it was very unhealthy. I tried to make a few lesbian friends last year and I ended up getting into a relationship with the first girl I met. Five months into the relationship I felt her slipping away and it ended a month later. She never talked to me and I felt that the problems we had could have been worked out. I thought everything could be solved by conversation and compromise. This was the first healthy - and longest - relationship I have ever had. I truly feel like she is the one I'm meant to be with. It's been six months since we've split and I still keep thinking of...

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