Dr. Frankie Bashan

December 2013

Dr Frankie   I entered my first lesbian relationship about four months ago

12/25/13

Dr Frankie I entered my first lesbian relationship about four months ago

Hi Dr Frankie   I entered my first lesbian relationship about four months ago.  I care a lot about my girlfriend and I enjoy all the time I spend with her…but recently I've noticed some new feelings.  I’d like some advice on how to control and avoid them, because I foresee them being dangerous to our relationship.   Girls can be naturally insecure and jealous, and I've noticed I've started feeling threatened because I consider my girlfriend to be much more attractive than I am. (In the same way that other girls may be jealous of celebrities or girls they deem more attractive/smart/funny than themselves, I am noticing these feelings towards my own girlfriend.)   It's bizarre because even with friends etc, I...

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Dear Dr. Frankie, How do I tell my friends to GROW UP!

09/17/13

Dear Dr. Frankie, How do I tell my friends to GROW UP!

Dear Dr. Frankie, Can you please help me understand why so many women in our community resort to juvenile tactics when a relationship ends? Once we reach a certain age we should see how petty this behavior makes us look. I have several friends who rely on passive/aggressive behavior to resolve conflict… I have two friends over the age of 50, who recently broke up with their girlfriends. They go out of their way to do things or make comments on their Facebook pages to belittle the other. Why can’t they just move on already? They kiss their exes in front of each other, which resulted in a fight at a party (and one was kicked out). Then there was the dividing of the Facebook friends, which I refused to do. My friends were quite disappointed when I refused and stayed...

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Dear Dr. Frankie, Is it really better to be friends first?

07/25/13

Dear Dr. Frankie, Is it really better to be friends first?

Dear Dr. Frankie, I recently went on a few dates with a girl. We totally clicked and had so much in common. But after a few dates she told me she is relatively new to the gay scene, just had a relationship end abruptly and wants to take things slow. She said she wanted to focus on developing good friendships. She made it clear that she thinks our personalities and interests are similar, and really wants to continue being friends. We have plans to hang out again. For longer lasting relationships do you think it's better to be friends first? Can a romantic relationship develop from a friendship? If someone ants to be friends does it automatically rule out possibilities for something more? Dear Friend, What a wonderful question! I applaud you for your positive outlook and...

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